I could use some help. I'm looking for an adventure rpg game that has crafting, building, fishing, farming, grinding, and customizing a house or a town. Id also like character customization. Looking for something not so mainstream like minecraft or terraria or starbound, i'm looking for something more obscure. A good example would be secrets of Grindea. If you have ANY idea that would be fantastic.
I would prefer only titles on PC or PS3.
Alright my first few suggestions are great matches to your request save for one thing: they aren't on the right platform.
Dark Cloud (PS2), Dark Cloud 2 (PS2), and Rouge Galaxy (PS2) are all perfect matches to your request (Rouge Galaxy a little less so). The first two games have most of the above. You craft, fish, play golf, design a town, and if you want the good equipment, grind weapon exp. The only thing you don't really do is farm.
Rune Factory: Tides of Destiny (PS3) is also a good choice. Again you can craft, farm, fish and grind. Your house has limited customization options beyond acquiring all the crafting stations, you can decorate one room with items you craft.